When we are being loved, we feel the vibrations of that connection.  Words do not even need to be spoken.  We see it in the eyes of the one giving love.  I see it when my dog and cat look at me adoringly with those most trusting eyes.  My daughter has a plaque in her home that says “I want to be the person my dog thinks I am”.  I want to be the person God thinks I am.
We see it in another’s eyes when we forgive or ask for forgiveness.  We see love.  So everything that does not look like love, does not feel like love, is FEAR.  When we are in fear we are disconnected from love.