How Respecting and Loving are you to yourself?  Do you say unkind, disrespectful things to yourself?  Do you value and respect your individual views, needs and desires?  Do you respect the Creator of you?  If you are harsh and judgmental of yourself, where does God fit into the spectrum?  For you see, you did not create yourself.  You make choices as to how you are going to live your life but you are a magnificent creation of God.  God created you as you are.  You came here by divine inspiration.