Dear Coach,

It has been said that we live our entire adult life getting over our childhood. How do we recognize the baggage we’re carrying and ensure we’re not offloading onto our children?

Dear Getting Over Childhood,

I personally believe it is a choice whether we spend our life getting over childhood. When our present relationships, hopes and dreams become more important than our past experiences, we tend to be able to live life with less baggage. Of course there are scars from past hurts, especially if they occurred in major developmental stages of childhood and were emotionally, sexually or physically abusive. Deep scars may greatly benefit from the assistance and expertise of a therapist who can help you with the pain and injury that created those scars. I often encourage people to choose a mentor/coach/therapist who encourages one to move forward as well as facilitates the healing process