Don Miguel Ruiz speaks about the agreement “Don’t Take it Personally” in his book The Four Agreements.  He suggests that what people think of you – good or not, is all about them, not you.  “We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.”  Anis Nin

When we are seeing our self in a good place then we are likely to see the good in others.  When we see ourselves in a critical or not good enough place, then we will see others the same way.